Recognizing the Cycle of Domestic Violence

Hey girl, heyyyyy!

Love is so hard. When we’re in an abusive relationship, it isn’t easy to see what’s happening to us.

If there wasn’t a cycle and they were constantly abusive or mean, most of us would leave sooner. An abuser is much smarter than that. The violence comes in cycles to make you stay.

Looking back, I can easily see how I was an ex manipulated me. He love-bombed me and appeared to be the perfect partner in the beginning. He became completely different the first time I confronted him about possibly cheating. The mask dropped, and he no longer had to pretend to be the man I fell in love with. Once I said I would leave, he would do things to give me glimpses of the man I loved.

He would get caught or confronted again about doing something shady and become a complete stranger. He would gaslight me, say and do the nastiest things, and then be kind in front of others. He trained me to be compliant in hopes of preventing the real him from coming out. We repeated this cycle for months. It was draining, devastating, and soul-crushing. I lost myself in that relationship, and guess what? This partner never became physically abusive.

Abuse is abuse, and you don’t have to live on the neverending cycle.

Recognize the signs and get out while you still can. The I Am House is here to help. You can have a better life!